BE MY ANTI-VALENTINE
A Guide to Valentine’s Day for the Broken-Hearted
London, UK – 16 January 2025 – For those who are going through a divorce or are recently broken hearted, there are other ways to mark Valentine’s. There’s Galentine’s, an alternative that can be celebrated with other female friendships, and then there’s the idea of an Anti-Valentine, a celebration of being single. Another contrasting way to celebrate Valentine’s is Singles Awareness Day, known as SAD, often marked on 14 February.
Either way, when Valentine’s arrives, instead of having to avoid social feeds of loved-up couples and their bouquets or engagement proposals, perhaps the key to marking this occasion is through creating your own version of the day. Julia Moreno, divorce coach from Pivot said, "Valentine’s Day doesn't need to be just about romance - love takes many forms. Whether it’s Eros (romantic love), Storge (family love), Philia (friendship), Agape (love for humanity), or Philautia (self-love), you can find a way to make the day meaningful for you”.
Paula Crowhurst, divorce coach from Pivot suggests creating a symbolic ritual that will allow you to acknowledge grief, tend to self, unfold and grow as the season change:
Try This Valentine’s Ritual…
Paula Crowhurst
Paula says, “Plant a rose bush on Valentine’s Day to acknowledge any loss after a breakup or divorce. It’s the perfect time to plant a rose bush. In this ritual, the rose bush symbolises oneself and the care and effort that is required to rebuild and flourish after heartache. Starting anew is represented by placing the rose bush in well hydrated, rich soil, which also symbolizes your environment. Surround yourself with supportive people, establish healthy habits and cultivate a space for growth.”
“Every time you water the rose, imagine you are tending to your core needs. Resting, eating healthily and receiving emotional support regularly are those areas that will help to be a source of strength to you most deeply. Later, by removing the dead, damaged, or diseased stems we are releasing the past. Unhealthy attachments, old hurts, toxic relationships must be cut away to make room for new growth. In the words of Luther Burbank “Don’t wait for someone to bring you flowers. Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul.
Audrey Zeitoun, divorce coach from Pivot suggests a range of rituals and events you can arrange instead of a traditional Valentine’s.
Valentine’s Visioning: This ritual, often done at the start of a New Year is very empowering. Create a vision board using a big piece of paper or card and use music, images, magazines and affirmations to inspire. Creating a vision board can be generic or one specifically about the type of relationship you want in your life, will help you focus on hope and self-growth.
You Valentine’s Playlist Party: Create a playlist of empowering songs that don’t remind you of your ex. Start afresh. Dance and sing the night away or relax in a bubble bath while listening. Share with your single friends too.
Galentine’s Brainstorm: Invite your closest friends and host a “find love strategy session”. They know you best! Let them tell you your blind spots, suggest date ideas or practice with them in a role play and create a dating profile.
Create a Unconventional Dating Profile: It’s best to be yourself to find a real match online. Be open about your peculiarities, your pet peeves or anything unusual about you. Skip the ‘best of me’ approach for something more authentic. You will attract people who match your personality.
Julia Moreno concludes, "If romance isn’t on your radar this year, why not plan something memorable and share the love with your children, parents, or friends. We often forget about taking care of ourselves, so Valentine’s Day can be your perfect excuse for a little self-care. You can try doing something new that excites you. You can celebrate love in your own unique way. Experiencing a breakup or divorce doesn’t mean love stops”.
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For more information, please visit www.yourpivot.co To arrange an interview with one of the founders or with one of Pivot’s divorce experts, please contact Nimrita Dadlani, Founder & CEO, nimrita@yourpivot.co 07768 068660.
About Pivot Experts Featured in This Mailer:
Julia Moreno, Divorce Coach from Pivot
Julia is an experienced divorce coach and family law solicitor with 20 years of expertise. She offers compassionate support and practical advice to navigate separation and divorce, empowering clients to make informed choices and secure the best outcomes. With a coaching style rooted in education, empowerment, and elevation, Julia guides clients with clarity and positivity, fostering self-trust and confident decision-making. Her holistic approach, offered in English, Spanish, and Catalan, ensures clients feel supported and empowered as they navigate their path forward.
Paula Crowhurst, Divorce Coach from Pivot
Paula is devoted to her clients, supporting their transition from a couple to single status with compassion. With a holistic approach, Paula prioritizes clients' well-being, drawing from extensive experience in emotional healing and divorce coaching. Her relatability and personal experience with divorce, enables her to empower clients to navigate divorce with dignity and make healthy choices for themselves and their families.
Audrey Zeitoun, Divorce Coach from Pivot
Audrey is an approachable and open-minded relationship and divorce coach. She will help you at all stages of your divorce to get you to a place of clarity and calmness. Audrey will use various techniques to help you navigate emotions, and conflicts and make the best possible decisions. She is particularly well-versed in expatriation issues and she understands the challenges and the complexity of multicultural environments especially when children are involved. Audrey works with individuals and couples. She is also a trained couple counsellor.
How Pivot Works
Individuals or couples can book ad hoc one-to-one meetings with our divorce coaches and consultants or book a bundle of sessions. However, we recommend starting with our Clarity Package (£440), which provides two hours with one of our professional divorce experts to support individuals through the steps of separation and divorce. It’s a package that includes all the nuts and bolts you’ll need for a smoother divorce.
We also offer a range of other themed packages and bolt-on sessions, for those looking for specific help around financial planning, co-parenting, divorce communication skills and other coaching needs.
What Do Professional Divorce Coaches & Consultants do?
A professional divorce coach or consultant will help you navigate the legal and communication highs and lows of a divorce. They are expertly trained to emotionally and practically support you through the process. Often they help you save money and achieve the outcomes you need by coaching you through the legal process, paperwork and form-filling process. A professional divorce coach or consultant helps you to make the divorce process quicker, smoother and more affordable. They offer practical and legal guidance, coaching, emotional support, short-cuts, administration advice, education and ‘divorce hacks’ so people feel fully informed, supported, confident and in control of the divorce process.
About Pivot:
Pivot is the first holistic platform dedicated to supporting individuals through the complexities of divorce and separation by connecting them with digital tools and professional divorce coaches and experts. Founded by Nimrita Dadlani and Ramesh Touraney, Pivot addresses the challenges of the divorce process head-on, a comprehensive content library and access to vetted professionals. With a vision to expand globally and introduce additional support services, Pivot is committed to transforming the divorce and separation experience, saving users money, time, and stress.
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